Sex and sensuality are not evil, provided they are
harnessed and directed to one’s own spouse and enjoyed
within marriage; but we forget the sanctity of its sacredness.
The challenge is, either conquer or be conquered. History
showcases fall of the great and the mighty; the scars these
invisible killer traits left behind on some great people are
greater than their greatness. David and Samson figure the
tallest in this category. Their fall impacted their nation, their
people and their families, almost immediately and in their
own generations. Away from these two names, there is
another person who is almost obscured by the weight of his
Reuben was Jacob’s first born. He occupied the lion’s share
in Jacob’s heart and head even in Jacob’s fading years. Jacob
spoke of no other son as he spoke of Reuben when he said
that Reuben was his pride and strength and the excellence
of his dignity and power. But the imagery fades away and a
much larger picture looms before Jacob’s memory as he
remembers the sin of Reuben’s in his youth. Reuben slept
with Jacob’s concubine, [Genesis 49:4]. For this sin, Reuben
was stripped of his birthright which was given to the sons of
Joseph, [1 Chronicles 5:1]. Later, the mention of the
Reubenites fades away in the memory of the nation. The
tribe produced no notable leader, prophet, nor judge.
Whatever remained of the Reubenites was due to a prayer by Moses in Deuteronomy 33:6, which only gave the tribe
its posterity but not prosperity.
Oscar Wilde captured the condition of such Reubens in a
letter from a prison.
For a long time, Reuben’s act seemed to have been forgotten
among his brethren and family. However, the invisible seed
sown in the throes of young passion gave its fruit in due
season. True harvest gives no regret; only contentment.
However, false harvest brings regret. The follwing poem by
Rudyard Kipling explains the thought further.
There are three types of people in the world: those who learn
from others’ mistakes, those who learn from their own
mistakes and those who never learn from anyone’s mistakes.
May we reflect on what type we are.
A mother has a natural bond with a child but a father has to build one.